Dating rejection advice

But in my experience helping literally thousands of men overcome their debilitating fears of rejection, here’s what happens 99% of the time: A woman politely explains that she’s already with someone, then thanks you for asking.

I suggest picking a day and jumping in, connecting with a few great women online first, or just going straight out to a coffee shop, the mall, wherever.

That’s right…start approaching women that you find attractive, in person, as many times as you can.

Of course, this may not be true at all (again, for any number of reasons) but here’s the point: You didn’t get hurt or damaged in any way. In reality, most women will actually be flattered that you made the attempt.

But don’t take my word for it…get a handle on this by going out there and proving it to yourself.

Having experienced both forms of rejection more times than I can remember when I was dating online, I can say that the second is far preferable. A very small number of people believe they have to play games to get dates and may wait for a week to respond but they are the exception, not the rule.

Many people remain a little too hopeful and look for excuses as to why someone might not reply to their contact. And an absence of a response means that there isn’t enough interest to encourage the response. Reverse the situation and imagine someone you were interested in contacted you. The rule is that when one person is interested in another, they’ll respond in a timely fashion.

Online dating over 50 is a petri dish for weird behaviors, a lot of it kind of fascinating.

But one of the weirdest behaviors is the phenomenon of people getting their feelings hurt by, and reacting angrily to, people they haven't even met.

As I said above, silence was my preferred method of rejection.

Actually, when people have asked me for advice on whether they should directly reject someone, I have suggested silence as the best option. A lack of responses is not the end of the world and there are many reasons it can happen (many of which have little or nothing to do with you).