), Gloria Gaynor wasn't just blowing hot air: You Let's begin with a basic definition: "Contact" includes both the obvious (phone calls and rendezvous) and the clandestine (texts and tweets). But a clean and total break is the most essential part of getting over someone, says Lisa Daily, author of "It allows you to start healing." That's what Kristin, 27, learned the hard way when things ended with her ex.